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Friday, February 16, 2007

Jobs, jobs, jobs....


I am not sure why I put that picture here, but I thought it was so pretty. I have that thing for lizards... always wanted one. Yes, and the monkey too.

So you all know that Mom got the job. And she is starting on my birthday, on the 1st of March. Wow, I guess that's a good sign! Well, we will definitely miss her, and so will the zoo. After three months we all just got so used to each other. :-)

And I got a new job too. Today I went to sign the contract. I will be working closer to home now since my new job is located in Sanford, which is only 22 minutes from our house. I applied for a job at Maurices, a (chain) clothing store, and from all the applicants, they picked me. I know it's nothing big, not what I would want to do, and it's not my dream come true or anything, but I am actually very happy that I will be working there. It is really hard to find a job here, in NC. You either have to be a registered nurse, an accountant, or a stripper. I don't qualify for any of these. And the pay here is so low that illegal immigrants in Denmark make more money per hour than I do.

Today I drove an hour and a half to met the new store manager, and she made it clear that in three months she wants to see me signing the contract again, but as a manager. Since she is not going to be in the store all the time, she needs someone dependable. She thought I was the most qualified and since the recent assistant manager is leaving soon, the position will be open. That made me feel even better. And I love the clothes they have at the store. :-) Yes, of course--I will have an employee discount.

I will still be working with make-up, freelance. And I might even go back to painting. I guess I will never be able to work again as a translator/interpreter. That carrier is over... Well, new country, new jobs, everything from the ground again.

There had been so many things happening in the past few months, but I just didn't feel like writing about it. It is not always as boring as I say on my blog... I just omit certain things. Like the fact that for the past few months I was trying (very hard) to work independently. Be my own boss, have my own business. But it didn't work out. So I am putting it away for later. My health also had been a big issue here. My migraines just got worse, and after trying new medicine, that gave me terrible side effects, my doctor decided to send me to take an MRI. It came out abnormal. There is a white spot on my brain, nothing cancerous, but because of the location of this white spot, my doctor was concerned and send me to a neurologist. Last Monday I had another MRI taken, with the contrast, which was supposed to show if the white spot is inflamed, or something like that. If it's not, than it was caused by my migraines, too much or either too little blood flow to the brain. If it's inflamed, than the doctor will be checking me for the MS, or whatever it might be... we will see. That's not all. I also have been having problems with my stomach and as much as I am honest here today, I am just refusing to write what the illness is. Ok, if anybody is curious, call me and I will tell you. But it's also painfull and annoying at the same time, and I had to change my diet drastically. It sucks. It sucks so badly that I am out of ideas what to eat. And I also have an anxiety disorder, that's since my childhood. It's just that for the past few months it got worse. So I am on medicine, and doing good. Mostly... Until now nobody really knew I had it. Did anybody noticed??? No... right? Gosh, my sweet Bozarth family... what you are going to think of me now??? and what about my friends? Now I need to start thinking: who has the link to my blog??? Ok, this os enough for now. There is more but I am just not going to write about everything. That's probably too much already. Today the result from my MRI was supposed to get to my neurologist, and I called and left them a message. I said that I want to know what the result is, and if they can call me on my CELL phone, and I gave them the number. I knew I will be on the road almost all afternoon, plus the meeting with the Maurices' manager. Guess what? Those idiots called me at my home number! And left a message to call their clinic about the result! I really want to curse here. Believe me, Mom and Rob taught me how to! So I got home around 7.00 pm, listen to the message and got mad because it's FRIDAY and I will not be able to know until Monday!!! It's frustrating. Maybe that's why after writing about my new job I just went on, and on, and on....

Ok, I really didn't think that I would write ALL that here. It's like writing a diary, but for real this time. And ironically, this blog is called DEAR_DIARY. Usually when I post stuff, I select what I write carefully. Especially if that is something to do with stuff that are important and stuff that I am not sure if I should, or want, to put online, open to everybody. This time, I did. Wow... should I "save it" now, or "publish" it? Which button should I click on?


14 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Beata-congrats on the job. We have a Maurices here and I love their clothes. You will do great there.

I'm sorry about all the health issues you have been dealing with. I too have had anxiety (and depression) problems since I was younger and have been on medication for it. It helps but not as much as I'd like. Please don't ever feel afraid to talk/write about anything. That's what family and friends are for, to be there for each other. You can always call/email me if you want to talk. I hope the MRI results are just from the migraines. I have a friend that has gone through similar things with that...they had thought she might have the beginnings of MS too but it doesn't appear to be thank goodness. Take care of yourself sweetie and let us know your results when you get them. I'll be thinking about you.

When does Rob get back????

9:53 PM  
Blogger Jerilyn Dufresne, author said...

I'm glad you wrote it all, sweetie. Now the family can tease me and say that all your symptoms got worse since I moved in. Ah well, I can take it.

Love you, and please try not to worry about the results...you'll find out soon enough.

10:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well congratulations on your new job. I buy LOTS of clothes at Maurice's for my boys. They have great young men's clothes too. You would be a perfect manager...and they would be lucky to get you into that position. In the meantime, you will knock their socks off in sales. Who wouldn't buy something when you turn your beautiful smile on them? Have fun with it...if you are happy, who says it can't be a dream job?

I am so sorry to hear you are dealing with so much worry over your health. I know it must be so much worse without Rob there to lean on and talk to and share your fears with. NO ONE in this family would ever judge you for any kind of illness you have. I just wish I could have been there to take you to your MRI appointments, then spend the day trying to cheer you up, or at least take your mind off of it for a short time. We will all be waiting to hear what you find out on Monday, but try not to borrow troubles...this way Rob will be home with you when you get the news about the MRI.

10:31 PM  
Blogger Beata said...

My sweet Kelly, thank you for not making me feel alone in this. I was really scared after I posted, of what have I done. How could I write all this and put it out there for everyone to see it? You are such a great cousin and I just love you so much!
Mom, I bet if anybody can take the teasing, it is you! I wanted to write about all that for weeks now, but couldn't get myself too. Every time I just chickened out. But now I guess I am happy that I did, even though my heart beat faster when I was checking if there were any comments.
My dear Aunt Cindy, always there for me! :-) I love you so much, you know that? It was so sweet of you to call me last night. I loved talking to you and Uncle Joe. Rob has really been so great with all my weirdnesses and also super supportive, loving, and understanding. He did go with me for the both MRI's, so I wasn't alone. And he will be back home soon. It is just a short trip, and I will have my baby home soon. But if you want to come over and hang out with me, please do! I will gladly have you cheering me up! :-)

Monday is a holiday, so I am not going to find out anything yet. I have to wait until Tuesday to call the doctor.

11:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't ever be concern about writing anything with this family because no matter what it is we always stick together now for my advice.

Jan's MRI and my MRI both show white spots that our neurologist is also watching. Jan's is most likely OLD AGE but he thought mine could be from MS although I am a little old for that. I too have bad migraines so who knows. Believe me if the news was bad they would not have called you at all but wait until you were home.

Now for your mood. If I told you how many people in our family are being treated for anxiety and depression I would break the HIPPA law. It is nothing to be ashamed of it is if you do not get treatment. I don't know anyone who doesn't have it at one time or another. I think the medicine should be in the water for everyone. So get over that. The important thing is to take your medicine. I did know about it because we talked about it when you were home which reminds me I thought we would see you guys more when in the US.

Now your second problem which I know what it is. That too is so common. Once again I could tell you other family members but I could be fined $50,000 so I will not.

Congrats on the job. We all love you and are very proud of you. We could not be happier having you in the family. Jan and I just talked last night how perfect you too are. Take care of one another and let us know. I will try to call you later.

10:03 AM  
Blogger Beata said...

Aunt Jane, you just made my day. Really. I was ashamed of what I wrote, but the way you explained everything, my posting doesn't seem so terrible to me anymore and I don't feel like I totally made a sorry ass of myself. Thank you! You actually made me laugh which makes me wonder now, hmmm... maybe Aunt Jane IS the funniest Bozarth??? I love you more than you know!!!! :-)

10:59 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

No Beata, Aunt Jane is definately NOT the funniest Bozarth (though i am glad she made you laugh) but she most definately can be the SMARTEST in the group...especially medically. Sometimes I don't know what we would all do without her, though I bet she wished we would find out! You take care...Rob should be home tomorrow and you will feel MUCH better

12:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Beata-glad you hit"publish" so we can share your ups and downs with you...like family does. Congrats on the job-I know you will be good at it, and enjoy it too. I hope all the medical problems work themselves out. Health worries are the worse worries-you can do tests, medicines but sometimes it ends up just dealing with what you have. and that is not easy. We are all here for you and glad you have Rob by your side to make each day better.

2:47 PM  
Blogger Jerilyn Dufresne, author said...

Gosh, I'm sitting in my hotel room with tears in my eyes. Thanks everyone for being so supportive of Beata. I knew you would be, but it was scary for her. And now she's laughing. Amazing what family can do.

3:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Beata, it sounds like you have really been having a rough time of it, healthwise. Don't ever be worried about sharing these feelings. We are your family! Aunt Jane is an expert and she is right about how common anxiety and depression is. I'm so glad there are good medicines to treat it. I'm glad Rob will be back when they call you about the MRI. Hopefully it is the migraines that caused the white spot as you are not old like Aunt Janet:) I have had bad stomach problems and it can be embarrassing talking about it.
Congratulations on the job! I am sure they were impressed with you.
Take care of yourself sweetie!

4:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Everyone loves you Beata!The whole package!I just went through some MRI testing, and they thougt that I had an anurism ,it turned out just to be a loop, not a buldge. Try not to worry , although I know it's not easy. And i know in your head you go through every senero.Try to be positive-with the love and support you have with friends and family, you can get through anything! Sharing and getting out anxiety is good, never hesitate! you are well loved...Kellie

4:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Everyone loves you Beata!The whole package!I just went through some MRI testing, and they thougt that I had an anurism ,it turned out just to be a loop, not a buldge. Try not to worry , although I know it's not easy. And i know in your head you go through every senero.Try to be positive-with the love and support you have with friends and family, you can get through anything! Sharing and getting out anxiety is good, never hesitate! you are well loved...Kellie

4:23 PM  
Blogger Beata said...

Oh my gosh, this is overwhelming. I had no idea that I will get so many supportive comments! It's not that I underestimated you guys, it's just that I was so ashamed to write it and didn't see it the way you all did. I am so happy I got it out of my system, I've never had such a loving family so I had no idea how to tell or deal with stuff like that. Thank you, thank you so much!!! Thank you also for sharing your health problems with me, here, in public. :-) Now I know where Rob has his wonderful understanding and patience to me, from. I love you all! And thank you Kellie, too. You are such a good friend and I really miss you. I am so lucky to be a part of this family and have such close friends to count on.

5:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Beata- congrats on the new job. I been overseas too long cause I dont know what a Maurices is...but if everyone loves their clothes, I am definitely going to check them out! I too am sorry to hear about your health problems and will keep let JB know and we will definitely keep you in our prayers. As one who reads your blog when I can, from past postings the love this family has for you is very evident from the very beginning!! Just as you and Rob embraced me when I returned from Baghdad...the family embraced and love you no matter what and will always be there for you. Much love. Charmell from Iraq

9:24 AM  

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